Do you often try figure out what you are doing, if its Christian, breaking Christian law, is God happy with me doing what I am doing or does it pass Gods approval?
Is living my life the way am, accepted by God? Have I been too angry? Have I hurt to many people? Have I helped enough poor people? Have I been a decent husband? Etc etc etc
God calls us to be in a relationship with Him. With this comes being filled with the Holy Spirit, being guided by the Holy Spirit and then with that guiding you will find yourself doing all these ‘christian’ things without even knowing about it, purely because of the person you have been transformed into and not because you are trying to prove to someone or impress God.
I have been very bad at this because often I wake up in the morning and think, “OK, today I am going to do this or say that or give this.” It should come naturally. It should be the person I am and not doing it to become a better Christian.