Tuesday, November 6, 2012

Letting go of fear.

This topic really hits home for me.
Its difficult to give love  or to love people if you don't love yourself. In fact its probably impossible.

If you keep on thinking that you are not good or what people think of you or if you live in an "abusive" relationship where you are continually put down and told that you are useless or not good enough - How can you relay a feeling of love to someone else.
What ends up happening is that you develop a sense of fear, of everything, of people, of yourself.

What I mean here, is that you are so scared of what people think of you all the time, that you shut off from others. You tend to concentrate on what bad things people say to you, and ignore any good things that are said about you.
After a while, if people say something good about you, you cannot believe them as you have had the bad thoughts drummed into your head and you end believing that is the person you are! FEAR!

Love if letting go of fear! It is letting go of what others think of you and knowing that you are important! You are worthy, you are loved and you are here on earth for a reason! God made us, each individually, each for a purpose, we are made in his image and we are LOVED!!

I talk for myself here. I need to stop listening to others when they say hurtful things. It all becomes a big circle. When you absorb hurtful things from others, you start believing these things about yourself and you believe that the only way you can feel better about yourself is to say those hurtful things back to others....and it goes round, and round, and round, growing bigger, more stronger and more hurtful!  (What goes around comes around)
It has to stop, and you are the only person that can do that!
Stop doubting yourself.
God loves us so much, who cares what others think.

Whenever we hold on to past hurts and grievances, we don’t allow ourselves peace of mind or true happiness. We need to learn to let things go and to forgive ourselves and give up our guilt.
We need to let our reality create our thoughts, we cannot let our thoughts create reality.

What happens is we live our lives from the past and for the future, but ignore the current moment. We are so busy living a life that is based on what happened days/months/years ago and fearing the future in case something may happen. We base our living and thoughts on what has been drummed into our heads from the past that we believe that the future will be the same and then see no hope. We project the past into the future and believe that the future will be the same and see no hope.

We need to try understand that the world is a creation of our own mind and thoughts, then we can simply change our minds about what we see. I don't know how simple this may be, but it makes sense and is worth a try.
Fearing from things that have happened in the past starts breeding a new beast in your heart. What ends up happening that you end up judging others, concentrating on a small part of their action/personality that you disapprove with because it makes you feel better about yourself.
Judging becomes a habit!

I have to start ignoring the past, what happened, what was said and what I said and done. Live in the current moment like it it is the only moment you have.

If we are dwelling on our painful pasts and worrying about our futures, then we cannot live in peace and happiness in the current moment. We are constantly in a state of conflict and cannot be truly happy. Living in the moment is the key to happiness.

We have created everything we have in our lives. This means that the thoughts we have created in our minds has created a picture of how to deal with issues and people and situations. That picture that we have created will dictate how you handle situations. We need to change that "picture", and the way we deal with past hurts and the way we live in the current moment will change!

You have the choice, you can change your thought, you can ignore the past and you CAN live in the current moment. God is with us always. Ask Him into your life, ask Him to come into the current moment in your life!

May God Bless you as you read this.

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